About the Female G-Spot

What is been popularly but erroneously called the G “spot” is the area on the upper wall of the vagina through which the urethral or “Skene’s” glands AKA prostate can be felt.  The media picked up the term “G spot" from the book, The G Spot and Other Recent Discoveries about Human Sexuality and has promulgated the notion of a “spot” on the upper wall of the vagina itself. 


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The search for a “spot” on the upper wall of the vagina, as opposed to searching for the prostate or urethral glands through the upper wall may be contributing to the difficulty of finding a single G “spot” and the controversy as to whether it exists at all.

Originally, it was thought that women only had clitoral orgasms.  Now we are finding that one can experience an orgasm in just about any area of the body. The G-area orgasm is best described as a vaginal orgasm, which means it is generated and experienced mostly within the vaginal area.  However, with practice and patience, the orgasms generated from this area can expand to include the whole body.  Lovers playing with the G-area regularly have also expanded the woman's orgiastic response from the average of 10-15 seconds to minutes and even hours!

To access it, a finger can be inserted inside the vagina, with the fingertip pad facing the clitoris, past the vaginal entry muscles, and follow the curve over the pubic bone so that your finger ends up on the other side of that bone.  Your fingertip would be crooked, just over the bone, with the pad on this tissue.

The tissue has been compared with the male prostate.  It feels a little like corrugated paper, with a ridgey texture.  It is possible to stimulate this area with the penis as well.  Once the woman knows how it feels (a little like the pressure when you have to urinate - it is best to evacuate the bladder before you begin G-play), then the two of you can experiment with positions and angles that work for her.  An average or longer length of penis that curves back towards its owner's body when erect has the easiest time accessing it.  There have also been various wood and acrylic-type wands that have been designed just for this purpose for those who like extended play sessions.  When choosing one of these wands, it works best if the wand is curved, like the one Nectar Products offers.

Now, in approaching the G-area, it is important to be aware of the special nature of this area.  It has been realized in our bodies, that our cellular/muscular/organ structure also holds memory of past traumas, if they have not been properly and completely released.  Have you ever heard of sexual healing?  The G-area provides one of the most efficient and easiest ways to get there!  The G-area is notably a place where a lot of emotions may be stored. Just as regular prostate massage is recommended for men to avoid prostate problems, it is actually a good idea for a woman's sexual and emotional health to make time for special, health massage/healing G-area sessions on an ongoing basis, outside of the lovemaking arena.  Then she can feel total permission to explore and release any tensions and traumas she may be holding there.

Therefore, whether you are with a woman who has never experienced this type of stimulation, or with someone who has, it is important to remember that if you choose to stimulate this area, you never know what type of response you may experience.  She may jump into sexual ecstasy, she may feel nothing, or it might even be uncomfortable, even painful for her.  Persistence on the part of both lovers will pay off in earthshaking dividends and profoundly, deeper intimacy, that we all crave, if they understand how to approach and surf the experience, whatever the response.

By Shama and Dr. Gary Schuback


The Crystal Wand

The Crystal Wand has been specifically designed to easily reach and stimulate the G spot. The G spot is an area within the vagina that has great sensitivity. It is located in the anterior (front) wall half way between the cervix and the outer vaginal opening. The location varies slightly with each woman and is normally difficult to reach on her own.

In some esoteric disciplines, the G spot is said to be the source of female creative power and the seat of Kundalini energy. Women have described orgasm stimulated from this area as "a deeper and more overwhelming feeling; a more pervasive flowing sensation throughout the body, of wider waves of feeling." In Tantra Yoga, the G spot is said to be the feminine polarity of female sexuality and the clitoris is the masculine. 

Other uses of the Crystal Wand include anal stimulation of the male prostate gland. It has been found to be of benefit for sufferers of Prostatitus, an inflammation of the prostate gland. Also it works wonderfully for stimulating men’s prostate for heightened sexual arousal.

Male and Female users have reported a wide variety of exciting results from using the Crystal Wand, including:

  • increased sexual energy and openness 
  • Increased vitality in every area of life 
  • Increased calmness and serenity 
  • Awakening of dormant sensuality 
  • Enhanced appreciation of the body and femininity (for women) and greater depth and sensitivity in men 

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FEMALE G-SPOT

Uses and Testimonials

A  G-SPOT orgasm has been described by many women, as being a deeper and more all pervading, flowing sensation.  Wider waves of orgasmic feelings flood throughout the entire body !  The Crystal Wand has been specifically designed by a woman for this experience. This allows a woman to open to receive more pleasure, a deeper quality of orgasm, and emotional healing. The Crystal Wand is the perfect tool for women to discover, explore, and stimulate their G-SPOT with a partner or alone. She can experiment using the Crystal Wand together with normal clitoral stimulation, or a vibrator for a whole new dimension in sexuality!

TIPS FOR WAND USE

A.        1) Breathe deep into pelvis (relaxes tension)
          
2) Squeeze P.C. muscles (revs up engine!)

B.         1) Lay on back
           
2) Pillow under knees
           
3) Wand inside (blunt end for Female G-Spot, pointed end for anal entry or male  G-Spot)
           
4) Other end tucked under pillow (like lever)
           
5) Hands free to explore!

C. 3 Strokes

            1) Deep scooping
           
2) Tapping on other end
           
3) Side to side, 11 o’clock to 1 o’clock

D. I “have to pee” sensation (and I just did!)

            1) Hold pressure of Wand
           
2) Relax, breathe, let go into sensation
           
3) Sensation will pass
           
4) Pleasure increases!

E. Use Massage Egg on outside lower abdomen/Wand inside (intensifies sensation!)

F.         1) Turn on music
           
2) On your side
           
3) Rock pelvis
           
4) Press wand between thighs
           
5) Other end inside (Wow!)


Testimonials

As a result of a recommendation from my Masseur Rodney Apana, I purchased a Wand from Nectar Products. I am a runner who has been recovering from a broken left foot injury that occurred over a year ago. During the last year after the bone had completely healed, I had found my right leg was suffering from several problems, e.g. shin splints, extremely tight hamstrings etc. to the extent that I was unable to walk or run without experiencing severe pain.  I found it impossible to achieve a normal workout. 

Since using the Wand continuously on a regular basis twice a day I have noticed a vast improvement in my blood flow to all areas of my body from neck pain to shin splints. I now can accomplish workouts at the level I was at before my broken bone injury without a second thought. My endurance is vastly improved as well from the free flow of circulation. I can now obtain a strenuous workout as long as I wish. Moreover, I find that I need more time every morning for my workout: not bad for someone who was not able to run 3 weeks ago.  

When I first purchased the Wand I used it once daily in the morning time, then changed the routine to morning and evening and found the very satisfactory results described above....I purchased 3 weeks ago a Wand from Nectar Products and I just had to write this letter of appreciation to you to express my thanks on such a marvelous product you have created for women. I use it daily and certainly know I have achieved wonderful results from it... 
Ms. T Bollman
Owner of Professional Soccer Team

(Note from Shiatsu masseuse: There is an acid buildup in stuck areas of tension, so I suggest to my clients that they press the area with the wand holding it until slight discomfort subsides, This means the blood if flowing back into blocked area. Then proceed in tiny increments, pressing the next area as if pressing around the clock. Press all areas of the vagina walls. Take your time, breathe deeply focusing on the area you are working on.)

 

Using the Crystal Wand, I experienced a type of orgasm I have never felt before with my hand, my partner's hand and with anything else I've used. And I've tried lots of things, believe me! I love the Wand. Thank you for creating it, Cynthia. It's changed my life!

Patti M.
Marin Court, California 
Writer, Book on Relationships

 

I have used the wand for pelvic release through the anus on myself and my husband. There are knots of tension in that area that hold emotions and tensions that effect the whole body and nervous system. I have begun to experience great pleasure in that area instead of tension! When using the wand I've experienced release of that tension and that has profoundly effected the way I am in my life! I am less up tight, less controlling and much more - I continue to use it and get more and more out of the experience.

The Crystal Wand was a curiosity that I purchased to experience and had no specific expectations about it. As a psychologist who works with sexual dysfunction, I was very intrigued with the possibilities of its usage. What happened with it was truly profound for my own personal evolution. It served as a catalyst for exploring the depths of my sexuality through emotional release and imagery that left me feeling that I had touched upon areas of my being that I would never have been able to clear without that unique experience.

Love and light,

Elise 
Psychotherapist

 

As the owner of a personal growth center as well as two alternative sex shops in the Los Angeles area, I have pretty much seen it all. I have tried and experimented with just about every new sex toy that comes on the market, and the Crystal Wand is on the top of my favorites list!

After a few days of using my beautiful Crystal Wand, suddenly, at fifty years old, I started enjoying vaginal orgasms! From then on I was able to create vaginal orgasms with my lover as well. What a joy! Another delight has been my lover's pleasure in watching my orgasm; actually seeing my vaginal contractions through the clear Lucite of the wand! The wand has become my favorite "toy". I love to start my day with a smile so... I can enjoy a quick five minute orgasm with my wand on my G-crest and my vibrator on my clitoris. It is guaranteed to begin my day with a deep appreciation of how responsive my body is!

Judy L. 
Business Owner

 

It’s the best $49 I've ever spent! Thank you, thank you! I'm particularly grateful to you Cynthia for what you teach about use of this wand to open up and reconnect deeply with my true self and with a vulnerable, deep place in me that I hardly know, but I love the feeling of it in me!!! And you've taught me how to enjoy this newly awakened part of myself in connection with my femininity, sensuality and sexual energy in a really positive, healthy, fun way - Now I'm really knowing what loving myself really means, whether I'm alone or with someone else!

Thank you again.

Linda C.
Atlanta, GA 

 

During one love making session, something deeply emotional started to be triggered in me. My lover was spent. Though by having the wand available, we were able to continue the deep physical, emotional, and spiritual opening which became a great healing for me.

A totally new feeling awakened in us both as my lover was inside my vagina. We used the wand movement in my anus, this stimulated him because of its curved shape and it stimulated my G spot, creating an intense sensual pleasure and Kundalini energy experience all at once.

Other variations are: his using the wand inside while being inside of me, gave him the androgynous feeling of simultaneously opening to receive and trusting to give his male energy to me. This is a very brief description of a very powerful greater experience than these words can do justice to.

T.L. 
San Diego.
Sex Therapist

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FEMALE G-SPOT MASSAGE TECHNIQUES

Here are some good, basic rules to follow for a successful G-area healing session. 

1.  The facilitator should always have the intent to heal and pleasure. 

2.  Take the time to "wake up" the area.  Massage her thighs, top and bottom, stomach, breasts, and her rear end.  Let her relax and become accustomed to your touch.  Harmonize your moods.  Encourage her to breathe deeply and exhale with sound.  Sound will always increase the pleasure.  Breathe with her  and follow her sounds, making sounds with her.  It will help you to "vibrate" with her feelings better, and she will feel additional loving encouragement from you. 

3.  When you feel it is time to approach her genitals, ask permission first.  This lets her know that you respect her body as hers and that she always has choice.  This also gives her encouragement to express her desires...she may not yet be ready.  Many women are not accustomed to having their readiness or feelings considered.  You want her to WANT YOU to touch her.  Begin by touching the outer areas with soft caresses and touches.  NO RUBBING at first.  The area could go numb before you've even begun!  Tease her a little, have her wanting more! 

4.  When you feel it is time to touch her inner labia, ask permission again.  Then, make sure that there is plenty of lubrication.  It is best to assume that hers may not be plentiful enough, so either wet your fingers with your saliva or use a lubricant.  Never enter the inner lips without lubrication, as it is uncomfortable for her. Continue to tease and tantalize her, only barely flirting with her vaginal opening and her clitoris.  Build the anticipation.  It makes it more fun and more intense. 

5.  Once she is fully aroused, begin by gently, slowly and lovingly feeling the muscles just outside the vaginal entry.  Whenever you do this work, begin by moving slowly. Your fingers can sense more, and she can feel your touch at a deeper level.  Ask her if she feels any tenderness there.  If so, then gently press in on that spot until you feel resistance, or she tells you to stop.  You want to gently press on the area so that she is aware of the discomfort, but not yet where she wants to back away.  Encourage her to breathe and make sounds along with you while you watch for some form of release.  Often this acupressure approach can turn into its own orgasm. 

Keep checking with her and she will let you know whether to increase the pressure, or back off.  Encourage her to feel all that is coming up for her.... words, thoughts, emotions.  The two of you can use the sound making techniques to help her "get into feeling her feelings" even more. You may encounter shivers, groans, growling, tears, hysteria, sobs, orgiastic bliss, or all of them!  As her lover, please stay focused on her at all times, maintain eye contact so that she knows you are there for her, and let her feelings fully express! 

It is important not to take any of these reactions personally.  Just hold the space for her to express.  Don't say anything, except to nurture, support, or encourage her.  DON'T TRY TO FIX IT!  Just let her feel and be. 

Then when she indicates that she feels complete for that area, move to another muscular area and do more of the same. 

6.  Eventually, it will be time to enter the vaginal opening.  Again ask for permission.  It is important that the timing is right for her! If you are using a Crystal Wand, begin by using your fingers up until this moment, or you can start with fingers, and change to the Crystal Wand later (a lot of lovers do this when their fingers get tired and their partner is still going!).  Continue with the same procedure on the inner walls of the vagina, slowly working your way up to the G-area. 

7.  At the G-area check with your partner to see if the touches you are giving her are pleasurable.  Start with the acupressure technique described above.  The tissue will begin to swell as the touch becomes more pleasurable.  Once it swells, you can experiment with other forms of stimulation.... rubbing side to side (first gently, and then increasing the pressure and pace as her arousal gains momentum)...tapping.... stroking down and up...two fingers, etc.  Stay focused, watch her response, and respond to her reaction.  Let her lead this dance!  It will increase her feelings of safety and her pleasure. Try to stay as connected to her as you can through eye contact, sound and breath!  With practice you may be surprised to find yourself feeling her feelings! 

When stimulating the G-area during regular lovemaking, it is advisable to be prepared to switch to healing mode, if she moves into deep emotion.  It is also wise to integrate many of these techniques into your everyday play, as appropriate, such as asking permission, watching to make sure that there is always plenty of lubrication, staying focused and attentive to your lover, and taking the time to "wake her up" before you plunge into more intense stimulation. 

With newbies, sometimes the beginning takes a little time and perseverance, but with patience, the rewards are gaining greater emotional and physical health, greater intimacy, and bigger and better orgasms!  I wish you joyous adventures! 

By Shama

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The One Wand You Want

A clarifying crystal for a new age of lesbians and heterosexual women alike!

Article published in ON OUR BACKS Magazine.

BY RACHEL VENNING

By now many of you have heard of the G-spot and female ejaculation. You may have even found it. For those of you who are still on the quest or those who just want more, more, more, there is a new toy on the market that has the penetration junkies all abuzz. The Crystal Wand is 10 inches of clear acrylic, hand molded into a shallow S shape. I first heard about it from Raven and Kate. They teach a seminar which is a hands-on exploration of the female sexuaI anatomy, and with a particular interest in female ejaculation. A class like theirs is obviously not for the faint of heart, and I have yet to get up the gumption to go, but the two teachers came into Toys in Babeland to get lube, gloves, and other supplies for the class and to tell us about the Crystal Wand.

The Crystal Wand is one of those designed-by-a-woman-for-a-woman types of toys. It comes with a brochure explaining a bit about female pleasure and power. The basic idea is this: the G-spot is hard to reach with one's own hands because it is tucked a couple of inches up the front wall of the vagina. When you do find it with your finger it's difficult to bang on very hard because of the angle. The Crystal Wand makes it easy to reach your own G-spot and, of course, works with a partner too. Chris told me her story: "I had a great experience with a lover who truly seemed to have, magic fingers,' but I couldn't repeat the feeling by myself or with my current lover. When I got the Crystal Wand I tried it on myself, and it worked! Then I showed my lover how to use it on me. We're both happier now that I'm not pining for ol' Miss Magic".

The key to the Crystal Wand's success is its shape. Kate told me that in her experience, no other dildo or vibrator had worked as well. "The only way I had ever ejaculated was from fisting. I tried some other devices, but they were all hard to use; either my wrist got tweaked or I had to hold a weird position. When I put the Crystal Wand in, it hits my G-spot exactly, and I can easily give myself the sensations I want." Donna concurs, "I like my penetration to be forceful. The S of the wand curves up and makes a little handle that is easy t o push on hard without getting tired." Some women find that the stabbing motions of a straight dildo just don't do the trick. For Carla, the best penetration "feels like pulling, not pushing. The S of the wand grabs in the right place, and then I sort of pull it down towards my knees and next thing you know I'm squirting buckets."

Randi first saw the Crystal Wand in a group-sex setting. "I knew right away that I had to have it. It took me a while to track it down, but now I love it so much that I gave each of my two best friends one as a gift. They cost $50, which is well worth it." Nicol told me, "I'm blessed with long fingers and can reach my G-spot fine on my own, but I like the wand for variety. Plus it's pretty. I use it for a paper weight at work, and no one is the wiser."

Rachel Venning is the cofounder of Toys in Babeland, a Seattle and Web-based sex toy store.

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